Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
I am not talking about vanity or arrogance or being stuck-up, for that is not LOVE. It is only fear. I am talking about having a great respect for ourselves and a gratitude for the miracle of our bodies and our minds.
"LOVE" to me is appreciation to such a degree that it fills my heart to bursting and overflows. LOVE can go in any direction.
I can feel LOVE for:
*The very process of life itself.
*The joy of being alive.
*The beauty I see.
*The process of the mind.
*Our bodies and the way they work.
*Animals, birds, fish.
*Vegetation in all its forms.
*The universe and the way it works.
Let’s look at some of the ways we don’t LOVE ourselves:
*We scold and criticize ourselves endlessly.
*We mistreat our bodies with food, alcohol, and drugs.
*We choose to believe we are unlovable.
*We are afraid to charge a decent price for our services.
*We create illnesses and pain in our bodies.
*We procrastinate on things that would benefit us.
*We live in chaos and disorder.
*We create debt and burdens.
*We attract lovers and mates who belittle us.
If we deny our good in any way, it is an act of not loving ourselves. […]
Lack of self-worth is another expression of not loving ourselves.
Tom was a very good artist, and he had some wealthy clients who asked him to decorate a wall or two in their homes. Yet somehow he was always behind in his own bill paying. His original quote was never enough to cover the time involved to complete the work. Anyone who gives a service or creates a one-of-a-kind product can charge any price. People with wealth love to pay a lot for what they get; it gives the item more value. More examples:
*Our partner is tired and grouchy. We wonder what we have done wrong to cause it.
*He takes us out once or twice and never calls again. We think something must me wrong with us. […]
*We are afraid to ask for a raise.
*Our bodies do not match those in ‘Gentleman’s Quarterly’ or ‘Vogue magazine’, and we feel inferior
*We don’t ‘make the sale’, or ‘get the part’, and we are sure we are ‘not good enough’.
*We are afraid of intimacy and allowing anyone to get too close, so we have anonymous sex.
*We can’t make decisions because we are sure they will be wrong.
"Beyoncé" Album SVA Screening NY,NY
Photographed by Rob Hoffman